Checkmate the problem

During counselling our aim isn’t to attack the problem in an aggressive sense. In many instances, we actually learn to be totally passive and accepting in the face of adversity.

So if the approach isn’t to attack the problem, how do we get the result we want?

The aim is to be very tactical in our approach.

A relatable metaphor for this approach would be the game of chess. There isn’t any aggression shown to the opponent. It is very much a tactical battle. It requires effort in many directions and the most successful players will be prepared to commit many pieces to get the result they want.

So in order to facilitate a positive experience in counselling, and to give a solid foundation to work from, we should aim to maximise other areas of our life concurrently.

• Homework. This doesn’t necessarily mean worksheets and reading. More so, developing what we have covered beyond the counselling sessions. We may only spend 1-2 hours together a week, out of a possible 168 hours, so naturally what happens outside of our sessions will be equally important.

• Exercise. This may come easy for some or difficult for others. Exercise will naturally boost our general well-being as well as many specific health benefits. We should always aim to implement some form of exercise alongside counselling.

• Sleep. Getting adequate sleep during a troublesome period is advantageous. A lack of sleep can affect our overall health and actually make us more susceptible to various physical and mental conditions.

• Diet. As with sleep, a balanced diet will provide our body with the energy and harmony it needs to repair and grow.

• Meditation. This doesn’t have to be the stereotypical type, but more so regularly taking part in an activity which brings you relaxation and satisfaction.

• Medication. If applicable, it is important to seek or maintain medical regiments.

As we can see, the more positive attributes we can use in our journey, the best chance we give ourselves of reaching the end goal.

Even though the Queen is the most powerful piece on the board, chess is rarely won by her singlehandedly. Instead it is the many pieces around her that support, protect and help her overcome the opposition.